How do you know your man is worth keeping? According relationship experts, keepers exhibit a set of beliefs, actions, and ideals that keep relationships thriving through the good times and the bad.
Although physical attraction also counts in choosing a partner, these keeper qualities are really important. Which means for the single ladies still searching be sure to check if the man in your next relationship is a keeper.
Dr. Randi Gunther of Good Men Project lists few of these qualities of a keeper:
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They’re self-accountable Keepers are not afraid to question themselves. They clearly put knowledge ahead of ego-preservation and seek ways to help their relationships stay successful. They ask themselves what they could do to change them for the better. They are not out to win at their partner’s expense. Yet, keepers don’t automatically give up their point of view when challenged. You know them by their combination of ego, strength, and flexibility. They not only hold their integrity under fire, but also expect that kind of behavior from people they respect.
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They see humor as a sacred part of relationships People who find the humor in life are more resilient to disappointments. They don’t laugh inappropriately or use humor to mock, but they do maintain perspective that keeps them aware. Yet, they also have a keen sense of perspective, and don’t use humor to lighten up situations that need to stay serious. They have learned the value of timing and a compassionate heart, and can process sorrow and joy with the same gentle appreciation for life.
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They’re authentic Keepers feel responsible for what they say or do. They don’t pretend to portray someone (or something) they are not, or automatically agree with something that they don’t. They wish to remain transparent because they don’t play games or want to participate in any. They’d rather hear the truth from others, too, even if it’s uncomfortable. Keepers choose partners who value them for their honesty. They don’t take that right lightly, nor do they use their authenticity to unnecessarily point out other’s faults.
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They seek continuous transformation Keepers are genuinely committed to learning from the past and projecting the future more effectively. To do that, they willingly seek constant new ways of seeing their lives unfold. They learn from their mistakes and believe in their dreams. Most people will choose security and predictability over challenge or change. Keepers successfully blend the two. They cherish traditions, but always search for better ways to help themselves and others. This way of being makes them ever interesting and exciting to constantly be around.
